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When a teen and a parent argue, it does not mean that something is wrong with their relationship. It means that the participants are on different wavelengths in wishes, values, attitudes, or beliefs. Conflicts are never easy, but they more often happen in families where there are teenagers who want to establish individualism and parents who are reluctant to accept the changes. Any topic can trigger a disagreement. Topics that cause the greatest stress in a family include household rules and responsibilities, according to Dr. Carl E. Pickhardt, an expert in parenting. School-related issues also set off many arguments.
Certain processes must occur for a child to reach healthy emotional adulthood, according to Carl Pickhardt, Ph.D. He identifies separation, differentiation, and opposition as necessary processes.
In the separation process, teens want to distance themselves from their parents and family in order to gain individuality in the social world. Because of the desire to separate, they communicate less with their parents.
In the period of differentiation, teens begin to experiment with their self-images. Hair, clothing styles and individual images are important to them. Parents often do not agree with some of the choices, which is natural.
Opposition is the process of challenging parental authority. Parents and children disagree about what is acceptable, fair, good, or bad. Disagreements can become a way of life in the family. But blame is a destructive entity in any conversation. Understanding what someone is saying is the necessary focus, not who is at fault.
Dr. Teri Apter, a specialist in family dynamics, explains that teenagers want acknowledgment from their parents. They expect their parents to treat them like adults capable of making good decisions. The recognition of maturity and value as a person is also high on a teenager's list.
\(by Sandi Hoffman – March 27, 2010\)
1. Conflicts happen more often in families where there are no teenagers. ...
2. Disagreements can be caused by any topic. ...
3. Household rules and responsibilities are the topics that cause the least stress in a family. ...
4. Separation, differentiation, and opposition are necessary processes for a child to reach healthy emotional adulthood. ...
5. In the separation process, teenagers want to spend a lot of time with their parents. ...
6. In the period of differentiation, teenagers begin to experiment with their appearance. ...
7. Opposition is the process of accepting parental authority. ...
8. Blaming someone is more important than understanding what they are saying. ...
9. Teenagers want their parents to make all their decisions for them. ...